In Search of the Meaning of Life
by Melana Gerber
Why am I here? What does this all mean? Does my life have a greater purpose? Is there anything permanent out there? Does God exist? Is there meaning to any of it?
These are the kinds of questions that we have been asking ourselves from the beginning of time, and often we think we have found some of the answers - I know I have. And if we cannot find answers, we make them up as we go, creating stories, myths and ultimately meaning for our existence. We hang our hats on this or that religion, love, work or belief. We create meaning by making things important - things like money, love, health and family. Then we give those things life and power over us.
Society teaches us that these things have intrinsic value and that without them, we cannot be happy. But these things have value only because we have collectively decided this at some time, and then forgotten that it is our choice. Do not get me wrong: this is a good thing, but at what cost to the individual? How many times have I been asked, “So when are you getting married?”, as if I can only be taken seriously when I have a ring on my finger. Or, even more insulting, I may not have an opinion about how to raise children - just because I do not have any and do not intend having any. (“How can you NOT want to have kids?”)
For the last few months, I have been asking myself if these principles, that we so strongly believe must give our lives meaning, really do. I have been seeking meaning in my life, and find it difficult to pin down, because what I want for my life is not what I was brought up to believe will give me happiness. The truth is, I do not know if those choices give anyone happiness. How could I, when I have never walked that particular path? When I look at the world around me and I see people who have made those choices, and how often they complain, even if they have what they were seeking, it makes me wonder about their principles. I am talking about the modern pillars that we build our lives on - creating a family, finding a well-paying job, buying a car, house or dream, finding love…